I don’t know about you, but as a wife, mum of 2 and a business owner life is bloody busy. It is exhausting. Tiring. And oh so wonderful at the same time.
But how do we ensure we can ‘have it all’. Well I honestly don’t think we can. Not all at the same time anyhow…. Yep. I said it.
I do however believe we can prioritise what is truly important to us, for ourselves, for our family, for our health… for whatever the vision is that you have for your life. And thats where having clear goals and objectives comes in. You can’t possibly prioritise any activity or task, unless you have the bigger picture in mind.
I personally know that I can easily enter into a state of overwhelm when there are lots of things going on – yet when I am clear on what is important, I can then prioritise my to do list.
The same applies to every area of our lives, and cross contextually.
Most people overestimate what they can do in a week and underestimate what they can do in a year… I know there has been periods in my life where I have looked back and thought – wow, what have I actually done this month! And of course, I was busy doing things, but whether they were tasks that were moving me towards my goals or not – thats up for debate! 🙂 Women have an amazing ability to be busy being busy.
The more we have on our plate, the more we need to be clear on our vision and our goals so that every step of the way – we can make decisions about the best use of our time.
Recently I took on a new project – yep. Crazy lady. 6 month old baby, a 3.5yr old who doesn’t stop talking, a finance business with very real timed deadlines, a husband (who really shouldn’t be the last thing I list!) friends, family and all the other demands of my time. But I did. And I don’t regret it for a second. Not only because I am very excited about the opportunity and what I can create with it. But mainly, because it has caused me to sit up, and take control back of my time.
Any new mum can relate – life gets hectic, you get caught up in the daily goings on of nap time, feeds, solids, washing, more naps, toddler activities, play dates, more feeds, lack of sleep, more washing.. (seriously – does it ever end!) – it is very easy to just get lost in that. And while I love my babes more than anything. I need more than that. For myself. For my sanity. For my marriage. For my bank account.
So, as crazy as it sounds, taking on something new, has actually created more time. Because I have prioritised everything. I have created space by scheduling. By allocating time in my diary for everything that needs to be done in a week. And using my goals as a guidepost to make decisions about what I will do with my time. I also added in the elusive time to exercise! And I am feeling better for it.
Do you have goals? Objectives? Visions about what you want to create?
Are they written down? Perhaps you love a good vision board? Or a combination of them all?
One of the best goal setting techniques I have used personally, as well is with my clients and seminar attendees is the C.R.E.A.T.E your goals format (Christopher Howard Training) … coupled with a strategic visioning process. I am going to share the format here. It honestly changed the way I set goals, and the results that I have achieved.
C. Clear & Concise
You need to get clear about what it is you want. It needs to be specific.
“I want to have more money” is not clear and it is not specific – it isn’t tangible, and therefore not measurable.
“I want to earn $1000” is clear and concise. there is no mistaking what your goal is. You want it to be so clear that your unconscious mind can easily work towards achieving this for you.
Realistic will be different things to different people.
Most people overestimate what they can do in a month, and underestimate what you can do in a year.
Your version of realistic will be specific to you – where you are right now and where you want to be.
Is it safe to you, safe to others and safe to the community in which you operate.
What this basically is, is an internal check, that ensures your goals are not hurting anybody else. That it will work for yourself, to others, and when we say community, this could be your family, your friends, your colleagues etc.
A. As Now/Act as If
You want to put yourself in the moment of the goal achieve. So we want to write our goals in the present tense. It is now … and I am/I have
This creates an image in our mind of the ‘wish fulfilled’
T. Timed & Towards Positive
Timed means dated. You want a date. A deadline. A due date. When is this going to happen? I have seen people forget to put a year on their goals, and wonder why they haven’t achieve them. A goal sets the pace for the action that follows. Dating your goal, ensures that you have the specific time period etched in your unconscious, that allows you to then create the action required to achieve it.
Towards Positive means, you want to write it as you want it. Not as you don’t want it.
You don’t want to write… and I am not fat. and I am not broke. I am not unemployed. I am not single.
You want to write the positive version of that outcome. If you are having trouble getting to that – you need to ask yourself the question… If you are not fat – what are you then? If you are not broke, what are you then? If you are not unemployed, what are you then? If you are not single, what are you then?
The other thing that comes to mind, if you are naturally drawn towards stating your goal as a what you don’t want format… is you may want to take a look at where the motivation is coming from. are you motivated for that goal, by moving towards what you want, or away from what you don’t want.
If you have away from motivation – it is highly likely that you will not achieve your goals long term. You will experience what is called the yo-yo effect.
I don’t want to be broke, I don’t want to be broke…. so you work really hard – until you aren’t broke anymore… and then your motivation drops away.
Same goes in the example of health.
I don’t want to be fat, I don’t want to be fat …. so you work really hard… until you aren’t fat anymore…. and then what happens… yep you got it. The classic yo-yo dieter.
I am going to speak about our motivations and what drives them in a post later this month.
E. End Step/Evidence Procedure
This is my favourite part. This end step/evidence procedure, is in my opinion. This is the juicy part. How will you know that your goal has been achieved? What will you be doing? What will you be saying? Who will you be with?
You want to make this part emotive. You want it to have some compulsion and energy.
If your goal is to go on a family holiday in May 2017. What would your evidence procedure be? For some it may be buying the tickets and seeing the confirmation email come through. Others – checking in at the airport with those they are travelling with. Or perhaps it’s sitting on the plane and buckling your seatbelt sipping champagne? You may even need to get to your destination and check into the hotel for it to seem real for you?
Here are some completed examples:
It is now, 23rd June 2017 and I am sitting by the pool in Los Cabos, Mexico with my husband, sipping cocktails as we enjoy our 5th Wedding Anniversary celebration.
(yep thats a real one of mine!)
It is now, November 2nd 2016 and I am feeling fit & fabulous as a pop on my new bikini and head to the beach in Fiji, knowing my hard work and clean eating has paid off.
It is now March 22nd 2017, and I am standing on stage receiving acknowledgement for my rank advancement, soaking in the applause of 10,000 people in the auditorium.
SO that my friends is it. Give it a try! I would love to know what some of your goals are! Go crazy – set some small ones, set some outrageous ones! What have you got to loose?!